If you don’t, when you become stressed, overworked, tired or unhealthy, you typically won’t feel lovely, nor will you feel like loving someone else. Instead of relying on feelings, which come and go, draw on the foundation of your soul, which you can cultivate regularly.
I’m a soul man.
Now read that again, but picture the Blues Brothers singing it back in 1978, because that’s what I was thinking about. Although I’m not singing the blues here, I do want to talk about soul.
I saw a commercial recently on TV that advertised “soul paint.” This company feels they have a paint color that will match so incredibly well, you will feel it in your soul.
Now, connecting a paint shade with your soul might be a stretch, but I think it’s valid when people say they want to find a “soul mate.” They are searching for a person they can connect with on a very deep level emotionally.
Author Steven McVey, who wrote a book called, “The Grace Walk Experience,” believes the soul is something we possess that consists of three parts: mind, will and emotion. He goes on to explain that, through the soul, a person thinks and reasons; he decides, chooses and feels. In other words, you could say it’s your “personality,” and, yet, that seems to light of a word for the heaviness of the soul.
The soul is unique. It’s not something you can see, but everyone knows what it means when someone says that a person, a piece of writing, or perhaps an act of kindness, has affected them deep in their soul. It’s that inner part of us that, when touched, seems to come alive.
I have felt my soul ache at times. Someone makes a cutting remark. A news report tells of a woman who has been raped. A child goes missing. I say something hurtful to someone in my family.
When someone talks about their “sole” purpose, you get the picture that they are really focused on this one thing. In that same way, my sole purpose is that my family knows I love them deep down in my soul, and I want to know they love me like that, too!
During Easter, I remembered the death of and celebrated the resurrection of Jesus Christ. When the disciples asked Jesus what is the greatest commandment, you teach, he replied, “You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, and with all your soul, and with all your mind, and with all your strength" (Mark 12:28-34).
I learned through my faith the depth of God’s love for me when he sent his one and only son to die on the cross and absolve me of my sins. That’s a love I feel deep down in my soul that I want to share with my family.
It’s important to nurture your soul in order to maintain that deep kind of love. You can accomplish that through things like getting enough rest, eating right, engaging in activities you enjoy, or getting outside and connecting with nature.
Page 2 of 2 - If you don’t, when you become stressed, overworked, tired or unhealthy, you typically won’t feel lovely, nor will you feel like loving someone else. Instead of relying on feelings, which come and go, draw on the foundation of your soul, which you can cultivate regularly.
Loving people, especially those in your family, takes effort. Even when you don’t feel in love, you can still choose love by taking care of yourself and being in the right frame of mind to be a soul man or woman.
Find me a family who is connected in their soul, and I’ll show you a family that’s winning at home.
— Dan Seaborn is the founder of the Zeeland, Mich.,-based group Winning at Home Inc. Email questions or comments to email@example.com.