She’s so shy!
Sat, 15 Mar 2014 14:21:40 +0000http://www.bastropenterprise.com/article/20140315/BLOGS/303159995/-1/blogs01Shyness can keep a child from feeling confident and ready to interact with others. The ways in which we teach, respond and support a child will help her develop the confidence to build healthy relationships. Some children are naturally slow to warm, and are more comfortable easing into new situations. This is true of many young children, who are learning to navigate social situations and new life experiences. Recognize your child's emotions, without reinforcing them. For the truly shy child, [...]]]>Infusing love into every day
Sun, 16 Feb 2014 21:01:42 +0000http://www.bastropenterprise.com/article/20140216/BLOGS/302169978/-1/blogs01Valentine's Day isn't just another Hallmark holiday. It's an opportunity to share love and joy with others, whether they are family, friends, or neighbors. So, for one day each year, all across the nation, we pull out all the stops. We write love notes expressing our love and appreciation, buy flowers, chocolates or other thoughtful gifts, and express to family and friends how special they are. On one special day, we all take the time to say, "I love you." Wouldn't it be nice if we were able [...]]]>Let go of the guilt!
Tue, 04 Feb 2014 00:12:23 +0000http://www.bastropenterprise.com/article/20140204/BLOGS/302049971/-1/blogs01Parenting is one of the most difficult jobs you'll ever have. The challenges are endless, and just when you think you've got it down, something changes, requiring a different response, a new lesson, a consequence or a compromise. Mistakes can be made with quick decisions that result in our remorse or guilt for having mishandled a situation. Rather than carry that guilt around, let it go, learn a lesson from the mistake and make the decision to do things differently next time. Read the full [...]]]>Snowed in, again
Tue, 28 Jan 2014 13:55:10 +0000http://www.bastropenterprise.com/article/20140128/BLOGS/301289993/-1/blogs01Remember the good old days when you waited for that phone call to hear that school was cancelled for a snow day? I hold such fond memories of playing with friends in the back yard, while my Mom baked cookies and warmed hot chocolate for us. She dried our wet snow pants, hats and gloves on the radiator, so they would be warm and ready for a second or third run in the yard. My dad flooded the driveway with the hose, which froze over into a magnificent neighborhood ice rink where we skated for [...]]]>You are Enough
Sun, 19 Jan 2014 23:22:51 +0000http://www.bastropenterprise.com/article/20140120/BLOGS/301209999/-1/blogs01William J Bennett's book, The Children's Book of Virtues, is filled with stories that connect to the specific virtues parents can teach their children. He enumerates the top ten for all to learn, which include courage, perseverance, responsibility, work ethic, self-discipline, compassion, faith, honesty, loyalty and friendship. How we actually teach those ten important virtues will determine the character of our children. Read the true meaning of You are Enough in http://www.bastropenterprise.com/article/20140114/BLOGS/301149953/-1/blogs01
Children achieve and succeed every day. Most days we recognize their accomplishments, but as they get older, it seems that we recognize those accomplishments less and less, as we come to take age-appropriate successes for granted. However, it is those small successes (which may go unnoticed) that keep children (as well as adults) motivated, interested, focused and successful. Therefore, in order for your child to continue to strive to do or to be his best, teach him how to set and achieve [...]]]>Keeping your teen safe
Sun, 29 Dec 2013 23:10:19 +0000http://www.bastropenterprise.com/article/20131230/BLOGS/312309999/-1/blogs01Teens most always talk a good game, and they are masters at layering on the guilt. "But everyone else's parents let them do it!" is a common phrase heard by most every parent. Keep the faith! Don't give in, don't negotiate, don't yell, and don't give up! Hold the line with your family values and make it your mission to keep your teen safe. There are many ways to connect and communicate your family values as well as the consequences for unmet expectations. Make a date with your teen, sending [...]]]>Home for the Holidays
Mon, 23 Dec 2013 12:57:07 +0000http://www.bastropenterprise.com/article/20131223/BLOGS/312239991/-1/blogs01Gathering for large family events is sometimes abundantly wonderful, and sometimes incredibly stressful. Family dynamics unfold as triggers and button pushing begin. This year, leave the baggage at the door as you greet family members with thoughtful care. Model for all the children how to rise above childish behaviors, or rude, hurtful remarks, teaching them to show consideration, empathy and patience toward all guests, family and friends, Read the full article, http://www.bastropenterprise.com/article/20131215/BLOGS/312159973/-1/blogs01
Parents often remind their kids to mind their manners, but that just doesn't seem to help. That's because we need to teach manners each day, with every opportunity. That doesn't mean nag all day long, it means decide what it is that is important to you, and teach it in a way that your child will learn. Do you want him to make eye contact while shaking hands when introduced? Do you wish she'd use a napkin, chew with her mouth closed and swallow before speaking with a mouth full of food? These [...]]]>Literal thinkers or teachers for life?
Tue, 10 Dec 2013 13:48:10 +0000http://www.bastropenterprise.com/article/20131210/BLOGS/312109992/-1/blogs01I'm sure that most of you have heard the expression, "Spare the rod, spoil the child", and have your own opinions on that statement. Must "the rod" literally have to be a switch from the back yard, or a paddle hanging over the mantle as a continuous unspoken threat? I'd like to take you to a different place with that. I'd like to introduce the thought that the rod can be an extension of a loving parent, who has the ability to reach and teach with patience, care and empathy. I received a [...]]]>Giving with Gratitude
Tue, 03 Dec 2013 13:53:26 +0000http://www.bastropenterprise.com/article/20131203/BLOGS/312039991/-1/blogs01We all have so much for which to be grateful. Even if we are currently under the weather, or experiencing difficult financial times, there is always someone else who is experiencing even a deeper level of devastation. If I am tired, I think how fortunate I am for my warm bed to go home to. When I feel that I've put too much on my plate, with too much work, I express gratitude that I have a plate, and a career that I love waking up to. For the past 12 years, I continue my fulfilling [...]]]>Raising a Reader
Sun, 24 Nov 2013 20:04:53 +0000http://www.bastropenterprise.com/article/20131124/BLOGS/311249975/-1/blogs01It's so easy to nurture a love for reading while your child is young. However, as children grow, some loose interest in books, so stick with it, become creative and follow some of these ideas for emergent or resistant readers:
*Be a diabolical reader; talk through the story rather than read it, as your child follows or draws the pictures. *Create a personalized family photo album with family names captioned. *Use puppets, dolls and stuffed animals to tell the story or join you for [...]]]>My mother, my teacher
Sun, 17 Nov 2013 22:04:01 +0000http://www.bastropenterprise.com/article/20131117/BLOGS/311179972/-1/blogs01Parents are the most important teachers a child will ever have. Children learn what we teach them and they do what we do. Running a household with laundry, bills, grocery shopping and meal prep can be a full time job for some, while others choose to include their children in life's daily lessons, adding academics and core standards as they homeschool. Read how one mom manages to provide an accelerated learning environment at home, while giving her children a rich, individualized education. [...]]]>Family Feuds
Sun, 10 Nov 2013 23:47:56 +0000http://www.bastropenterprise.com/article/20131111/BLOGS/311119999/-1/blogs01It can be a tricky business when your child comes home with hurt feelings from a cousin or other family member. While nobody wants to start a family feud, it is especially important for relatives to learn how to communicate with each other to resolve conflicts. Family is so important, and those who enjoy a close relationship know what a gift that is. When issues aren't calmly addressed soon after the event, hurt feelings become deep wounds, which are difficult to heal. It's important to [...]]]>Taming the monster
Wed, 06 Nov 2013 12:15:06 +0000http://www.bastropenterprise.com/article/20131106/BLOGS/311069987/-1/blogs01So often when children misbehave or are disrespectful, parents just don't know what to do. When yelling, spankings, grounding or time-outs don't change the behavior try logical and natural consequences instead. Those are the ones that make sense, and teach the lesson. Those are also often the toughest to come up with when we are frustrated or angry. Think of specific situations that have happened, and how you might have handled them differently or more effectively. Once you begin to use [...]]]>Logical consequences that teach
Mon, 28 Oct 2013 12:46:48 +0000http://www.bastropenterprise.com/article/20131028/BLOGS/310289988/-1/blogs01Do you have a tough time thinking of what to do when your children misbehave? Do you take away television privileges or send them off to their room? The real question is, are those punishments actually teaching a lesson and a different behavior? If your kids continue to do the same things, over and over, without learning from being grounded or having toys taken away, start teaching with logical consequences. Logical consequences are those that have an action directly linked to the behavior. [...]]]>Aprons all around!
Mon, 21 Oct 2013 13:08:29 +0000http://www.bastropenterprise.com/article/20131021/BLOGS/310219989/-1/blogs01Teaching in the kitchen is a fun, relaxing way to reinforce math and reading skills. Include your toddler or teen with daily food prep, or choose one day out of the week for family participation with prep. Even toddlers can sit safely at the table and snap off the ends of string beans or open boxes and pour dry foods into bowls. Starting kids young in the kitchen will build their sense of confidence, while reinforcing a wide variety of skills, including listening carefully and following [...]]]>When in doubt, check it out
Tue, 15 Oct 2013 11:40:24 +0000http://www.bastropenterprise.com/article/20131015/BLOGS/310159989/-1/blogs01Children develop a variety of different skills at different times. Girls usually develop language sooner than boys, who often develop large motor skills sooner than girls. And so it goes, when trying to figure out what's normal and what's not. If you are concerned with social or developmental delays, your first stop is to ask your pediatrician about milestone marks. However, some pediatricians may express concern while others may prompt you to "wait and see." I say follow your heart. In many [...]]]>Single Parenting
Mon, 07 Oct 2013 12:23:37 +0000http://www.bastropenterprise.com/article/20131007/BLOGS/310079989/-1/blogs01Whether you're married, partnered or single, it's time to let go of the resentments and parent with your child's best interests in mind. You cannot raise an emotionally healthy, stable child if you parent without structure and limits but fall back on resentments, caustic accusations and blame. Intentionally pull the plug on high stress situations, set guidelines upon which you decide to raise your children and be the best parent for an amazing outcome. Read the full article, When allergies impact the party
Mon, 30 Sep 2013 19:52:52 +0000http://www.bastropenterprise.com/article/20130930/BLOGS/309309946/-1/blogs01More and more children are affected each day by severe food allergies. Managing those allergies to keep your child safe can be a challenge, especially at birthday parties, where candy, cakes, pretzels and chips are served, and are loaded with nuts and gluten. So, how do you safely send your child to a party where dangers lurk in every bite? Read http://www.bastropenterprise.com/article/20130923/BLOGS/309239947/-1/blogs01
Adolescence can be a difficult period for everyone. Communication is an important piece, as teens tend to become less interested in sharing both their thoughts and their time with family. Teens think of themselves as capable young adults, but lose sight of the fact that their immaturity or poor judgement may affect their future success. Be prepared and stay connected. Read This Mom’s Memories
Mon, 16 Sep 2013 12:38:55 +0000http://www.bastropenterprise.com/article/20130916/BLOGS/309169988/-1/blogs01Being a single mom and living only miles from New York City on September 11 brought emotions of both fear and determination. As our entire country was torn apart within moments, I felt helpless but determined to protect my three children at any cost. Read “Be prepared, but don’t live in perpetual fear”.
More than Live, Laugh and Love
Mon, 09 Sep 2013 13:03:38 +0000http://www.bastropenterprise.com/article/20130909/BLOGS/309099990/-1/blogs01Being a parent is a 24/7 job that can, at times, be exhausting as well as frustrating. Let go of the negative cycles and infuse nine L's into each day to build a stronger bond and raise a thoughtful child. Read the entire article “Live, laugh and love”.